Monday, October 3, 2011

Dealing with recieved negative messages


My eyes widen in thrill of seeing my mother has responded to my birthday wish list. I click her awaited name on my student webmail services. With in seconds I notice the message is rather short and distastefully direct. I read the first statement that read, “Remember there are two of you “, referring to my twin sister. Luckily the great part about getting a negative response in a message is that the person who had sent the message cant sees your initial facial reaction. My fists clenched as I was reminded that I have to share my birthday yet another year. I was angry because I had spent hours looking for online sales to keep in mind of my parent’s limited expense. As the fantasized Steve Madden heels stomped through my head, I had let my own selfishness see that my mother was correct. Every year I have shared a birthday with my twin Taylor, but the next four years all four of their children will be in college. One of our birthday wish lists maybe another’s college semesters needed books. Taking the time to emotionally react before physically messaging her back gave me time to question why I did not get my assumed response. I think it is good to experience emotionally triggered messages. Personally, it makes me really plan ahead of how I am going to direct the audience I am responding back to. I could have responded instantly back to my mother and potentially threaten hurting her feelings before I would have ever made the bigger connection. It is always better to write a message in a negative mood and be able to correct it before sending than having to apologize for a note that you permanently sent and saved.